Finding 'The One'...My Story

 

Everyone has some expectations about how their life partner would be. Thought most of them imagine things which are too rare to find in a person or may be they have to be satisfied with meeting some of those expectations. For me, the criterion was simple, A simple girl who loves me, respect my parents and not too expensive to afford. its not a rare trait in girls even in these times... certainly important. Getting the right partner is so important to people, most of them end up wondering am I with the right person. I have a different approach to that.. I always had.. always will have. whenever I have to take a decision, I try to weigh every relation information and try to make a decision that I feel I can carry with me. because for me, the decision itself is not that important. what I do to make that decision a 'right decision' is what is more important to me. so when I finally decided to give-in to a year long persuasion of my family to get me engaged with the 'right' girl, there brought some proposals. I saw all of them but don't know something special was with this one girl... She was beautiful, slim, well-heighten and from a respected family in the society. but there was something else too.. something that's hard to give words to, something that made me push myself beyond that line where instead of just seeing the picture, you agree to 'meet' the girl.  

My notion of 'meeting the girl' was not the same as others. everyone said, "you will see 3-4 girls and then you can decide. there's no need to hurry in such decisions...". but to me, if I am going to see the girl and then I say no to her, it seems inappropriate to me. and fortunately, I never had to do it.  

The girl I met, My Girl now onwards, was a perfect match for me, at least that's what I thought when I first met her... :) and over the time this little thought, turned into faith, then into belief.. and now everyday this belief is growing stronger and stronger. 

So, how do you know or decide that she is the one in just one meeting and that too for hardly half an hour? Well, most of them says, you will get a signal, or a inner voice, or bells will start ringing in your heart etc etc... trust me nothing of that sort happens.. when you are sitting with that person, you don't focus on all these things, you focus on how are you feeling. that feeling, when you are with her/him is more important anything else. you may give number of 'logical' reasons why this person is not the right person for me, but you can not change how you felt with them. if that feeling is good, then you have got your match. if its not, if you are afraid, nervous, hasty, impatient and skeptical, you are not with the right person.  Here, keep in mind that you may feel all of this when you start your meeting, but by the time you end it, you should not have any of those feelings, that's when you know. that's how I knew :) 

No one is perfect, if I try to find flaws in her, I won't take much time and if she's asked the same, I'm sure she would have an even bigger list more promptly ready for me... its not about finding the right or perfect match, its about making a relationship which is perfect! This worked for me for this lifetime, and I hope you will find your better half in your own good ways.  

Have faith in Love, it will find you sooner or later, all you have to do then is, realize it.

Forgiveness - A Virtue In Disguise

in my life, there were certain incidents, which made me believe that I will never be able to forgive some people in my life. People who betrayed me, people who backbited me, people who had kept a score against me, people who gave me such a hard time, people who I would never want to see again in my lifetime.

The more I thought about those things/events, the more I hated them and even the idea of seeing them. it is so hard when you trust someone to be your friend, to be your wing-man, to be your moral support, and they reject you, not because something's wrong with you, but because they think that you're not worth it, because they take you granted, because they think that you can never accomplish anything worthwhile in life and being with you is nothing more than just a waste of time. Sometimes, I thank them, because if it were not for them, I would have never challenged myself and raise my level above them. But somewhere within that feeling kept me from even thinking about them, let alone forgiving them. 

Until recently, when I realised that its a burden that i am carrying with me for so long, its a worthless waste of time crap which has pinned me down and these feelings have become heavier ever since they first started bothering me. This has prompted me to give a second thought to my inner-conscious and I asked myself, IS IT REALLY WORTH IT?

This feeling of anger/grudge/betrayal and god knows what, is eating me from inside and now its time for me to FREE myself from this burden.

So I have forgiven them, not because they deserved it, NO! but because I wanted to feel lighter, and it worked? you bet it did! The moment I forgive them, I felt so light, so free, so joyful and so much positive than I ever was...

Holding grudge against anyone doesn't do any harm to them, instead its like smoking cigarettes, sooner or later, it will kill you from inside to a point of no return. Thankfully, I was not there yet. but most of us don't understand it until it happens to us.

To a future, where forgiveness prevails more than grudge and revenge.

Life...

Life's is not always a cakewalk, sometimes it’s a roller-coaster and sometimes it’s like a mud-walk where every step taken by you shall splash dirt on either you or people close to you. Life would be good if you see it not the way it is but the way you want it to be. I've heard many people complaining about their life and I hate to admit that I too sometimes become a part of that crowd but after a certain point I realized that more you complain about your life, more it becomes hard on you. If you can just stay focus to achieve something that you desire, all this excuses just go away. Have you ever drove a car on a highway? If yes, where have you focused your mind while driving, on the road or on the front glass where all the dust partials and small insects strike? If your answer is "on the road" then you understood what I meant here. Or take another example of the same highway, but now its the rainy season, your focus would still be on the road instead of those drops which fall on your front glass or that moving wiper for that matter which keeps cleaning those drops. Situation is what life's made of! What you focus on determines where you would land up! If u focus on the falling drops, you might meet a severe accident and you're done. I've heard a very successful person talking about goals. He said, "If you have never set goals for yourself, you have never really known your true potential. Your fight to improve is with yourself. Set a goal for yourself for this month and achieve it. Next month, you are fighting with your goal of previous month, so set an even bigger goal and achieve it! Repeat this step every month and you'll get better and better!" and that's how you can understand what you're capable of. Living life is a privilege which many people don't have for long. Be thankful for whatever is given to you and be wishful for more. Keep smiling and stay focused, May the joy be with you :)

Happiness...:)

Happiness is the most sought feeling among us. We try to find hapiness in anything and everything we do. Be it the love of parents to keep the child and themselves happy, be it eating that healthy food made by mom which we don’t like, be it meeting relatives often, be it going to college and pursue a degree course out of the town, be it bunking the class and going to canteen with friends, be it going early to college just to see her coming, be it doing his assignments, be it choosing a high paying job in other cities, be it marrying a gal who is selected by our parents for us. Everything we do is to make us happy. Often we seek happiness in outer world, in the materialistic achievement, in monetary gains etc. but the true feeling of happiness which lasts longest is the one which comes from inside us. Happiness is inside us. But we often forget to look in ourselves. Here’s what I have learned from The Secret.

Feeling is the feedback mechanism of the universe for you. You can not have bad thoughts and feel good at the same time. Your feelings tell you what you are thinking right now. And as secret says, your thoughts are powerful frequencies which you emit in the universe and they come back to the source, multi-fold i.e. YOU.

May be you don’t believe in spiritualism, and I’m not saying you to agree with me. But I have experienced what I have written in the above paragraph. Life is short, very short. It’s just like yesterday when I was in college having my best days. You don’t know what’s going to come tomorrow. You would blink your eyes and you’ll be having breakfast with your grandchildren. So just an advice…. Follow the tag line of a Very Big Company which says… MAKE THE MOST OF NOW

My Life... An Open Book

My first blog ever…. :) and it should be about me… :)

Ok.. Meet me. Dipil Jain (drum roll, applause, applause :))… not dilip, not tipil, not vipin, not anything else… its DIPIL, simply DIPIL.(may be or may not be a new name to you). Let me tell you in very advance that I don’t know what my name means.. :) So please don’t ask and bother me on that…

I born in a small village called Mahidam, dist. Banswara, Rajasthan on Dec 9 (year censored :P). I completed my schooling till 4^th class from Mahidam, and then my family moved to banswara, and I completed my senior secondary education from banswara. For Degree, I went to Alwar, Rajasthan and completed my degree of Engineering in Mechanical in the year of 2007.

After Engineering I came to pune to start my career in IT field (and I’m not the only one who’s done degree in mech and working in IT… :P). . since then, I’m in pune.

It’s been two and a half years now. Seems like it was yesterday when my bro came with me and we stayed at one of our relatives’ house… the very first day of my job, August 17, 2007. Woke up at 7 AM, caught the bus at 8.30. And I was at the reporting place sharp 9 AM. The reporting time was 10 AM. I also found few guys like me.. eager to join an MNC J… we went through a complete day long session of induction where we’ were introduced to many different things and people in TechM. Nothing new in that… except when I figured out that there is only one person from my college (3 from my college got selected in TechM, one joined in NOIDA and one went to infy) and rest all were in groups of at least 3 people fro their college.

First fight was to find room, my brother did a lot of research in pune for Room, and He had seen the city in 6 days far more than I could have seen in nearly 6 months. But since I was alone I did not get a flat, and his efforts went in vain. Then with the help of some relatives, I managed to get accommodate with Rohit and Manish from Udaipur… :) nice people.. even today I cherish them as good friends.

They have already told us in induction that the person who gets two retests in any subject will be out of the company. So now, it was the case of staying employed or not. I studied rigorously for next 3 months (during the Initial Training Program) at Tech Mahindra.  And studied subjects like JAVA, UNIX, PLSQL, SQL, and what not. Some how I managed to clear it without any retests :). That was the best part.

But like we all know…boys never forget to have fun. During our training, I made such a great friends and a brigade of army men who can fight with me and conquer over terrorists. J For those who understood this line.. You guys must be good in it.. And those who don’t… GO and play Counter Strike :)

I’m still working with Tech Mahindra. Can’t say how the experience was… it was good for most of the things… whenever it was bad... I learnt a lesson from it... :)

One of my friends Rohit Ramchandani has made a poem on our stay in TechM… I just wanna share that with you… read that and please don’t forget to give your comments on it… :)

Frustrations of a Technical Associate (TG1)

It all started exactly a year ago

on the 17th of august as I remember

all excited and eager to join this new co.

And to place my life on a new endeavor

The ITP training part was fun in all seriousness

where we learned java and also played CS

But little did I know what’s going to be next..

To start with, a salary of almost half of what I expect

And then the day had come when I got allotted to a CSU

the passion was all there in me, but sadly no quality work to do.

To separate my notorious batchmates from me was a thing so mean.

What made life even more miserable, was that there was no girl in my team.

It’s been almost a year, I haven’t got a project of late

The only pastime comes from Josh and TechMate.

Why don't they gimme a choice of what kind of work I wanna do

can somebody hear my voice, or has everyone become so dull too?

The 8 hour life has become so monotonously weird

Even that girl in yellow tag seems to have suddenly disappeared

I thought  I should let free in the times so near

But then there is also a bond of 2 years, Oh dear!

I can carry on. Oh no, I'm not finished!

But then I also want this article to get published

I'm not a writer or a poet or a critic you see..

But being in TechM just got the worst out of me!

;-)

Poem Written By-Rohit Ramchandani