Everyone
has some expectations about how their life partner would be. Thought
most of them imagine things which are too rare to find in a person or
may be they have to be satisfied with meeting some of those
expectations. For me, the criterion was simple, A simple girl who loves
me, respect my parents and not too expensive to afford. its not a rare
trait in girls even in these times... certainly important. Getting the
right partner is so important to people, most of them end up wondering
am I with the right person. I have a different approach to that.. I
always had.. always will have. whenever I have to take a decision, I
try to weigh every relation information and try to make a decision that
I feel I can carry with me. because for me, the decision itself is not
that important. what I do to make that decision a 'right decision' is
what is more important to me. so when I finally decided to give-in to a
year long persuasion of my family to get me engaged with the 'right'
girl, there brought some proposals. I saw all of them but don't know
something special was with this one girl... She was beautiful, slim, well-heighten and from a respected family in the society. but there was
something else too.. something that's hard to give words to, something
that made me push myself beyond that line where instead of just seeing
the picture, you agree to 'meet' the girl.
My
notion of 'meeting the girl' was not the same as others. everyone said,
"you will see 3-4 girls and then you can decide. there's no need to
hurry in such decisions...". but to me, if I am going to see the girl
and then I say no to her, it seems inappropriate to me. and fortunately,
I never had to do it.
The
girl I met, My Girl now onwards, was a perfect match for me, at least
that's what I thought when I first met her... :) and over the time this
little thought, turned into faith, then into belief.. and now everyday
this belief is growing stronger and stronger.
So,
how do you know or decide that she is the one in just one meeting and
that too for hardly half an hour? Well, most of them says, you will get a
signal, or a inner voice, or bells will start ringing in your heart etc
etc... trust me nothing of that sort happens.. when you are sitting
with that person, you don't focus on all these things, you focus on how
are you feeling. that feeling, when you are with her/him is more
important anything else. you
may give number of 'logical' reasons why this person is not the right
person for me, but you can not change how you felt with them. if that
feeling is good, then you have got your match. if its not, if you are
afraid, nervous, hasty, impatient and skeptical, you are not with the
right person. Here, keep in mind that you may feel all of this when you
start your meeting, but by the time you end it, you should not have any
of those feelings, that's when you know. that's how I knew :)
No
one is perfect, if I try to find flaws in her, I won't take much time
and if she's asked the same, I'm sure she would have an even bigger list
more promptly ready for me... its not about finding
the right or perfect match, its about making a relationship which is
perfect! This worked for me for this lifetime, and I hope you will find
your better half in your own good ways.
Have faith in Love, it will find you sooner or later, all you have to do then is, realize it.
